So, flirting.
Everyone seems to do it. It seems like just a fact of life, that every girl and guy does it to each other if there's even a little bit of attraction between them.
It's not considered "wrong", either. Not usually. Not if it's friendly flirting with people you know.
But just because something is not "wrong", does that make it "right"?
It seems to me that when you flirt with a guy (as a girl), that guy is led to believe that since you flirt with him, you likely flirt with other guys. I've heard this from a guy, so I'm not just speculating. Strike one against the girl. That doesn't make the guy feel special.
Some people say that flirting encourages the guy. Well, if the guy doesn't like you enough to come out and pursue you, then any amount of encouragement isn't going to do anything. If a guy really, really likes a girl, even though he's shy, he'll be willing to go right up to her. If he doesn't, he's not worth your time.
Finally, guys love the challenge of pursuing a girl. When a girl is flirting, she's throwing herself at him, though it's in a minor way. If she's already all there for him, where is the challenge? There isn't any. Why should he be interested for the right reasons? For your mind, for the excitement of discovering your personality? He wouldn't be.
So, flirting.
It doesn't seem to me to be a good way to start a relationship, or even as a way to present yourself to a man. I'm resolving to just be comfortable in myself around men and not be overly comfortable or overly tense. Just to be myself in God and to love men as brothers. God'll take it from there and we'll go onto the next step in relationships when a man gets up the gumption to pursue me.
-Tina
p.s., lots of this was inspired by the book How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul by Jason & Crystalina Evert, which is a great book. It has a cheesy title, but it's very well written and so applicable to life.
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